The mid-life crisis is a phenomena that is often treated as a joke. When
it hits real people in their lives, however, it has the potential to be
very destructive. The symptoms can be debilitating on their own. When a
man is with a partner who does not understand them, they can trigger the
break down of a relationship. Because of this, it is critical for anyone
to be able to recognize the signs of midlife crisis in men.
no single strict criteria that a man has to meet to be said to be
experiencing a midlife crisis. There are a lot of themes that tend to
arise in his life as a part of it, though. The middle stage of life is
often when a man begins to look closely at how much he has achieved in
life compared to what he hoped to do when he started out as a boy. In
many cases, there is a significant gap between the two. Even when the
gap is not large, it is often the case that he looks at his life and
realizes that the professional achievements that he fought so hard to
win are less fulfilling than expected.
If a man begins to seem restless and dissatisfied around the middle
of his life, it is important to try not to take it too personally. Those
who are in this situation often experience symptoms that are much like
depression, and they can even go through a kind of mourning as they work
to accept that the lives they dreamed about will not become reality. It
is very easy for a manís life partner to assume that these feelings mean
that he is unhappy or resentful about the life that they share. In
reality, though, it is just a natural adjustment period. Understanding
this can go a long way toward reducing the pain and the friction in the
relationship over this issue.
It is natural that some men will reach a stage in life where they
realize that they are mortal and that some goals may simply be beyond
their reach. This can be a difficult adjustment, and it is sometimes
even one that requires the guidance of a therapist. The important thing
is to try to be supportive of the men in your life, and not to take it
too personally if they seem to suddenly become unsettled with life. It
is not abnormal, and it is something that you can work through together.
Signs Of The Midlife Crisis In Men
When you hear the term Mid life crisis in men, chances are you think of
trophy wives and fancy little sports cars. Jokes are made about this
transition period, but it is actually something that should be taken
seriously. This time in life isnít all bad either.
The term midlife
crisis was introduced by Elliott Jacques in 1965. He defined this as a
time when adults come to realize that life is moving along at a rapid
rate and they are mortal. Others credit this term to Erik Erickson. No
matter who gets the credit though, a midlife crisis is a time when
people stop to take a look at their overall life. This may come out of
the blue or it may result from a major life occurrence, such as the
death of a parent or the youngest child leaving the nest for good.
Mid life crisis symptoms vary greatly from person to person. Some
find they are unable to sleep while others want to do nothing, but stay
in bed. Morbidity often rears its ugly head and concentration may be a
thing of the past. Regrets are not uncommon during this stage of life
and men find they have sharp longings for a particular item or person.
You may find that you are struggling with the answers to big questions,
such as, ďWhat am I doing with my life?Ē
A majority of men experience a midlife crisis. This transition period
frequently involves work and family, but it can affect other areas of
life also. You may begin questioning your economic status or religion
may change in terms of how it affects your life. Goals and priorities
are reevaluated at this time and dreams may be followed up on. Lives
change drastically at this time and this can be very tough for all
A manís response to a midlife crisis depends in part on the support
he receives from others. If no support is received, depression may
result. What are the signs to look for and what needs to be done when
you become depressed?
Symptoms of depression include feelings of hopelessness, pessimism,
helplessness, guilt or worthlessness. If you no longer enjoy activities
you have in the past, you may be depressed. Changes in eating or
sleeping habits have been noted with depression and the same is true of
restlessness or irritability. If you find you are depressed, seek the
assistance of a professional.
Your doctor can help you get through your midlife crisis and
depression. Therapy helps as do antidepressant medications. The time has
come to make changes in your life. You are in a whole new stage and it
can be a great one. Itís all a matter of how you deal with these changes
and where you want to go.
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